”There is good in everything, if only we look for it.” — Laura Ingalls Wilder
Besides controlling our emotions connected to an obstacle (like being overwhelmed, discouraged, or upset) we can go further and look for an opportunity within it. We have to remember that everything depends on our perception. Thanks to obstacles, we have a unique opportunity to experiment with different solutions, tactics, or to achieve new skills.
Here are a few examples of how to find a positive opportunity in situations that seem to be bad.
It is hard to see good things in having a boss, or longtime rival at work, that makes each day a horrifying experience, but if we look closer, they also:
- keep us alert
- motivate us to prove them wrong
- harden us
- help us to appreciate true friends
- provide an instructive antilog - an example of whom we don’t want to become.
In a situation where we didn’t save the changes in the document we worked on, and all our work was erased, we normally curse and are angry. But there is also, at this moment, something positive - by doing the work once again, we will be twice as good at that topic.
When people are:
- Rude or disrespectful: They underestimate you. This can be a huge advantage.
- Critical or question your abilities: Lower expectations are easier to meet and every accomplishment is more admirable.
Of course, we want to avoid unpleasant situations, but we have to remember that in most cases it is only because of our perception. Our perception is the enemy that prevents us from seeing the advantages.
We can compare an obstacle to a gift that does not have nice packaging. It is not about seeing the glass-half-full, but rather, about converting something negative into something positive.
Find the opportunity