“The only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through a rejection of alternatives.”
Many of us believe that we should be as accepting and affirmative as possible, ie. we believe that we should open ourselves up to different opportunities, say yes to everything and everyone, etc. However, this belief will overshadow everything in your life. After all, if you do not reject anything, what do you stand for?
When you choose a value for yourself, you are rejecting alternative values. For example, if you choose to value your marriage, you are rejecting infidelity. This applies to every area of your life, and it is crucial in finding happiness. Learning how to say the word “no” will help you change your life in the way that you want it to. As with the aforementioned example, when you say “no” to infidelity, you are working towards building a healthy, committed relationship
Gain freedom through commitment.
Set clear and appropriate boundaries with your partner.