By doing these exercises, you can access a gratitude level you’ve never experienced. This is an important step to improve your warmth—one of the three components of charisma.
There are three techniques that can help you to feel more grateful.
Focus on the present.
Changing your focus to the present can reduce your annoyance and improve your charisma.
Sweep through your body from head to toe and find three abilities you approve of.
For example, you can be grateful that you can read.
Scan your environment.
Look for small things that you can be grateful for.
Use a third-person lens.
You will need a pen and paper to do this exercise.
Describe your life as if you were an outside observer.
Focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Write about your work and relationships with people in your life.
To be more precise, write about yourself and the people that work with you. Write positive things about friends and family.
You must write it down.
Just thinking about it will not be very effective.
Imagine your own funeral.
It’s not an easy exercise, but it is very powerful and used in many leadership seminars. It can give you a great feeling of gratitude, but it can also bring some undesired feelings, so make sure you are in an environment where you feel emotionally confident.
Sit down, close your eyes, and set the scene.
Visualize everything in detail: the place, the time, the day of the week, the people. Who came? What are they wearing? The more details you can imagine, the more effective it will be.
The funeral starts. What do people say about you?
Visualize the people you care about most. What do they have in mind? What would they say about you?
What would you like to be written on your tombstone?
Visualize people coming to the cemetery and reading it.
Stay with this emotional state as long as it is comfortable for you.