“Protecting” your children from falls and failures will hurt them in the long run. Teach your children to gain resilience to cope when things don’t go their way, and they will grow into well-adjusted adults.
Be present in your child’s life.
Show them you love them by taking an interest in them—ask them about their day and talk to them about their interests, ideas, experiences, and concerns. Most importantly, show them unconditional love by supporting them through their hard times.
Know when to back off.
Allow your child to make choices such as choosing their outfits, managing their time between play and work, etc. Don’t micromanage them, and be supportive when they make a mistake. It’s the only way they can learn!
Help them grow from experience.
After your child has a learning experience, speak to them about what they have learned. If they have a problem with something, help them figure out a solution. You can offer advice, but don’t do all the work for them!
Set the bar higher each time, so your child has an opportunity to grow. However, remind them that perfection is not necessary; they just need to give it their best effort.
Focus on building character.
Reward them when they are good, and encourage them to participate in community service to develop perspective.
Give specific, authentic feedback.
Praise and criticize exactly what your child does accordingly. Refrain from generic praises/criticisms. Instead, identify what you’re proud of/disappointed in and inform your child of it.
Show your child how you reflect on experiences, how you solve the problems in your life, how you deal with disappointment, etc. Let them learn from watching you!