Therapy is a collaborative process. If your therapist is not the right one for you—if he/she is stern, judgmental, agitated or harsh—you will likely feel scared, abandoned, and humiliated, and will not be able to resolve your traumatic stress.
Remember, a good therapist should be able to stabilize and calm you, help you lay traumatic memories and reenactments to rest, and reconnect you with your peers.
Pick a therapist you feel comfortable with.
Feeling safe and relatively comfortable is extremely important for you to confront your fears and anxieties.
Ask yourself, “Is my therapist curious to find out who I am and what I need?”
If your answer is yes, your therapist is likely the right one for you.