Remember, anger is a secondary emotion; there is always something that underlies it. When you identify this underlying cause and acknowledge it, you will be able to manage your anger.
Recognize your fears.
Fear leads to feeling hurt, which leads to frustration, which leads to anger. Identify the fear and hurt that caused your anger, acknowledge it, and express how you are feeling threatened. You will then be able to soothe your anger.
Admit your vulnerability.
Do not be ashamed of your fears and hurts—no one is invulnerable. We all experience pain, but to overcome it, we must accept its presence.