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How to Raise an Adult

by Julie Lythcott-Haims

If you’re a parent who wants to raise your child to be self-sufficient, independent, and responsible, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid For Success is the book for you. In this book, author Julie Lythcott-Haims doesn’t just give you advice on parenting; she backs each piece of advice up with evidence from child psychologists, case studies, and research papers.

We’ve compiled a list of actions you can try out with your children, starting today, to ensure their success as future adults. So, pick one and try it out!

Great ideas from this book


1. Refrain from letting your presence be what protects your children.

2. Be aware of the overblown fear of strangers.

3. Reward your children reasonably.

4. Handle bullies appropriately.

5. Allow your children to dream.

6. Help your child mature to a point where they can make commitments to adult social roles.

7. Give your children unstructured time to play freely.

8. Create a culture of free outdoor play.

9. Teach your children life skills.

10. Keep your child on track by ensuring they can complete tasks appropriate for their age.

11. Give your children the freedom to think for themselves so they can develop critical thinking skills.

12. Teach your children to think about more than themselves.

13. Let your children speak up for themselves.

14. Help your children build a work ethic.

15. Help your children chart their own path

16. Build resilience in your children.

17. Have a wider mind-set about colleges.

18. Listen to your children.

19. Be a better parent by looking after yourself.