The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism
by Olivia Fox Cabane
This is one of the most practical books we have in HabitCoach. It contains over 50 practical actions you can apply to your life. Each action is meant to help you become more charismatic in different situations and from different perspectives.
It has great pieces of advice on how to be charismatic, what to avoid to keep your charisma, how to give presentations, how to improve your body language, and much more. Take this book slowly to absorb all the advice, each piece is valuable.
About the Author
An expert in the fields of charisma and leadership, Olivia Fox Cabane has lectured at Stanford, Yale, Harvard, MIT, and the United Nations. As a frequent keynote speaker and executive coach to the leadership of Fortune 500 companies, she helps people increase their ability to influence, persuade, and inspire others.
CHAPTER 1: CHARISMA DEMYSTIFIED
CHAPTER 2: THE CHARISMATIC BEHAVIORS
Do mindfulness training.
Next time you are in conversation, check regularly to see if you are fully engaged.
CHAPTER 3: THE OBSTACLES TO PRESENCE, POWER, AND WARMTH
CHAPTER 4: OVERCOMING THE OBSTACLES
Rewrite the reality to change your negative emotions.
Get satisfaction from people who aggrieved you.
Practice getting comfortable in uncomfortable situations.
Stretch your comfort zone.
CHAPTER 5: CREATING CHARISMATIC MENTAL STATES
GRATITUDE, GOODWILL, AND COMPASSION
Practice gratitude and appreciation.
Experiment with these goodwill exercises.
Learn to be compassionate.
Improve your self-compassion by doing a Metta exercise.
USING YOUR BODY TO AFFECT YOUR MIND
Use body language to change your mind.
Before an important event, warm up to maximize your charisma.
CHAPTER 6: DIFFERENT CHARISMA STYLES
Develop focus charisma.
Develop visionary charisma.
Develop kindness charisma.
Develop authority charisma.
CHAPTER 7: CHARISMATIC FIRST IMPRESSION
Dress to impress.
Learn to give the perfect handshake.
Break the ice.
Exit a conversation gracefully.
CHAPTER 8: SPEAKING AND LISTENING WITH CHARISMA
Master listening to people actively.
Accept compliments in a charismatic way.
Speak in a visual way—the natural language of the brain.
When you communicate with others, always give value to the listeners.
Practice your voice fluctuation.
Practice the power of your voice.
Project warmth through your voice by smiling.
CHAPTER 9: CHARISMATIC BODY LANGUAGE
Mirror people’s body language to make them like and trust you.
Respect personal space.
Make proper eye contact to be more charismatic.
Show power through body language.
Model your posture after royalty.
CHAPTER 10: DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
Learn to deal with difficult people.
Learn to deliver bad news.
Learn to deliver criticism.
Learn to apologize well.
CHAPTER 11: PRESENTING WITH CHARISMA
Learn public speaking: know who you’re trying to persuade.
Learn public speaking: Select one clear idea that you want to communicate.
Learn public speaking: Create supporting points for the message.
Learn public speaking: add an entertaining anecdotes.
Learn public speaking: add characters that are similar to the audience.
Learn public speaking: when using numbers, make them personal.
Learn public speaking: create a charismatic appearance.
Learn public speaking: practice until it’s perfect.
Learn public speaking: become comfortable on the stage.
Learn public speaking: project warmth.
Learn public speaking: pause, breath, and slow down.
Learn public speaking: correct the course after the mistake.
Learn public speaking: follow this checklist on the day of the speech.