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Chapter 13: The charismatic life

Good charisma can also create problems. Each charisma type has its own downsides, and it’s good to learn how to deal with them.

For example, when people start noticing that you are successful, there will be jealous people that will speak badly about you and try to get you down. This happens because those people are no longer in the spotlight, and they feel they also deserve admiration.

A great way to deal with it is to give other people a sense of ownership for your success. Make them feel that you are successful because of their input. This will make them care about you more, and be proud of you. There is a framework called JALIR, that will help you to do this.

When you are constantly in the spotlight (when you are a leader, a CEO, or a star), it can be very difficult to handle all the attention you get. Trying to look very powerful every single moment might not be as effective as showing your vulnerability. Yes, that’s right. Leaders that know when to be vulnerable can become very charismatic.

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