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Chapter 2: The charismatic behaviors
The first element of being charismatic is being present. It’s not as easy to be present as it sounds. However, like every skill, this one can be learned. By being present, you will stand out of the crowd, and you will be memorable. Being fully present during a five-minute conversation is much better than being partially present during a one-hour conversation.
The two other elements of being charismatic are power and warmth. To display these two elements, you must show charismatic body language. As we are not able to constantly control every single muscle, we cannot really fake it. Instead, we must use our imagination. Our mind cannot tell the difference between reality and imagination. When we watch a horror movie, we know that it is just a movie, and the people are just actors. Yet, we feel fear and emotion.
In the same way, just by using our imagination, we can show that we have power, and we are warm.
Actions to take
Do mindfulness training.
Next time you are in conversation, check regularly to see if you are fully engaged.