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Chapter 4: Overcoming the obstacles

There are three practical steps to overcome obstacles in the way of being charismatic. Putting them together will help you to overcome the most common charisma killers, such as self-doubt, self-criticism, and dissatisfaction caused by comparison.

To become charismatic, you must learn how to deal with the number one killer—internal discomfort. In order to do this, there is a three-step process: destigmatize the discomfort, neutralize the negative thoughts, and rewrite your perception of reality.

When you are more advanced, try to get more comfortable with discomfort. You cannot eliminate the feeling of discomfort, and you cannot fight it, so having the skill to dive deep into the feeling and be comfortable with it is the best way to cope.

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