When you tell these stories, you become an object to yourself. That is the very reason the illusion of ego identity arises—because mentally you make yourself into an object. You begin to have a relationship with yourself, and you tell others and yourself your stories, and this prevents you from finding yourself at the deepest level, which is the you that is beyond form and stories and ego.
Start to notice the stories you tell yourself and others about you.
These include stories about your health, your childhood, your past experiences—start to notice your excuses, your blaming, and your reasons.