You can only get what you want, if you know what your goal is. Otherwise, you will be meandering aimlessly with a vague sense that something is wrong, however, you will not be able to pinpoint what exactly that is.
Clearly define what you want.
If you don’t know what you want, you will not be able to achieve it. For example, you may want to get married soon.
Be sure that this is the right objective.
Ask yourself, “Is this really what I want? Is this really what is best for me?” If the answer is yes, then you can follow through with achieving that goal.
Change yourself in a manner that will allow your goal to come to you.
Using the earlier example, if you want to get married soon, identify why you aren’t married yet. Maybe you have too domineering of a personality, or maybe you do not have enough patience. Then, change those things about yourself.