By removing the baggage of emotions, the solutions seem to be obvious.
In a problematic situation, pretend that it is not happening to you.
Tell yourself that it is unimportant, that it doesn’t matter. It will not seem to be so horrible and you’ll find clear solutions.
When you try to overcome an obstacle, think how you would advise your friend.
Probably you will find many solutions to the problem, or maybe you will not even see any problems in the situations.