Real freedom comes from one hundred percent responsibility. If you are reactive, you are not really free. Being free means that you always have the ability to respond to everything that happens to your life.
Repeat this every day until it becomes a part of you:
“My ability to respond is limitless, but my ability to act is limited. I am one hundred percent responsible for everything I am and everything I am not, for my capacities and my incapacities, for my joys and my miseries. I am the one who determines the nature of my experience in this life and beyond. I am the maker of my life.”