Most middle- and upper-class children grow up with their parents or other adults in their lives completing tasks for them. This does not give them the opportunity to develop life skills—after all, they’ve always had someone else do everything for them! Children who grow up like this cannot adjust well to adulthood, where they are solely responsible for completing several tasks that they have no prior experience of handling.
By teaching your children how to complete tasks on their own, you teach them life skills, so they may go on to leading competent lives as adults.
First, do the task for your child.
Begin by example—do tasks for your child so they can observe how you do it. Only do this for tasks that your child can’t do; if your child can do a task, or can almost do it, allow them to try doing it unaided.
Then, do the task with your child.
The next step is to aid your child in completing the task. Allow them to do the majority of the task, and only step in if they need help.
Thirdly, watch them do the task without help.
Now, step back and let them try completing the task unaided! It’s okay if they mess up—making mistakes is how they learn.
Allow your child to complete the task independently.
You’ve successfully taught your child how to complete the task. Now it’s time for them to do it all on their own.