Once you have differentiated between your good and bad values, you will be able to eliminate the bad and focus on the good ones! . However, when you follow this mindset, you are not listening to yourself. By identifying your own values, you can make decisions on what you want or do based on how important it is to you specifically. You will know the real value of the choices you make.
Most importantly, by identifying your good and bad values, you can measure your success - follow your good values, and you will achieve success.
Identify your personal values.
What are the values you live your life by? Examples of values are honesty, vulnerability, popularity, curiosity, and materialism.
Differentiate between the good and the bad.
Good values are those that are reality-based, socially constructive, and controllable. Bad values are those that are non reality-based, like being superstitious, socially destructive, and or uncontrollable.
Good values are usually achieved internally, but bad values are reliant on external events. For example, your honesty (a good value) is something that only you are in control of, but popularity (a bad value) depends on how others view you.
Eliminate the bad values and focus on the good ones.
Identify the values driving each decision you make - if it is a bad one, that might not be the right decision for you. If a good value is behind your decision, it will likely lead you to success.